Think Before You Pink 2015

Last year, about this time, I wrote a blog post entitled “Think Before You Pink.” Once again, we have entered into the month of October. It is time for crisp fall nights, apple picking, pumpkin patches and Breast Cancer Awareness month. Only 30 or 40 years ago, breast cancer was something that was hidden from view. It was only whispered about and women faced treatment alone-the public was shielded from those facing this battle and sadly these women fought for their lives without needed support. Somewhere along the way women got bold and thought, you know what I may lose my breasts and my hair, but I am not going to hide. Many people credit First Ladies Betty Ford and Nancy Reagan along with TV shows like Dallas for giving women the courage to speak publically about breast cancer and treatment. There are many individuals and groups that we can thank for bringing this issue to the forefront of people’s minds and for beginning a brilliant money raising machine, but let’s face it there have also been some very tone deaf and deceptive “awareness raising” schemes that have done little more than line the pockets of some very shady business people. 

Everyone I know has been touched by breast cancer in some way. At the time of my original post, I had one dear friend who was a multi year survivor living with some health issues that are a by product of her treatment 12 years ago. I am happy to say that friend continues to manage her health issues and is feeling great.  I had another friend, who was fighting for her life. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that about a month after I published that blog, Suzanne would lose her battle with this awful disease. 41 year old women are not supposed to die in 2014 or 2015, but our beautiful and loving friend did. This year, I have even more strong feelings on this subject and I want my clients and anyone who may be paying attention to understand that jumping on this band wagon may seem like a good idea, but it has to be done thoughtfully.

As a marketing consultant, I have been asked often what my clients can do to honor Breast Cancer Awareness Month. I get asked because of my marketing background, but also because I am a woman. Everyone who has asked about Breast Cancer Awareness Month has had a sincere and heartfelt desire to do the right thing in a classy manner and to honor all of the women who face this disease, but especially those who are close to them. For me, directing them is so personal because I have seen my friends struggle not only with cancer, treatment and residual health problems, but also with body image issues and lingering fear. In an effort to honor these women, I have treaded very lightly and asked for advice on how to sincerely do good without being opportunistic or downright skeezy. I ran across an article titled, “Think Before You Pink” and I want to share the link and some highlights so that our readers can make good decisions that reflect the desire to be honorable in their business practices and in their communities.

This is paraphrased from ThinkBeforeYouPink.org (http://thinkbeforeyoupink.org/?page_id=13):

  1. If your business is considering a “Pink” initiative in the month of October, is your company going to donate a portion of revenue or each purchase to support breast cancer programs?
  2. What organization will get the money? What will they do with the funds, and how do these programs turn the tide of the breast cancer epidemic? 
  3. Is there a “cap” on the amount your company will donate? Has this maximum donation already been met? Can your customers tell that the maximum donation has been met?
  4. Does this purchase put you or someone you love at risk for exposure to toxins linked to breast cancer? What is the company doing to ensure that its products are not contributing to the breast cancer epidemic?

I highly encourage all of my client companies to support local charities for a number of reasons, yes it is good marketing, but it also builds camaraderie among employees and solidifies your team. When considering whether or not to make breast cancer awareness and research funding your business’s cause, think about whether it is truly complementary to your business. If you are a spa, makeup artist, hair salon or lady’s clothing boutique then yes, build an initiative that honors and raises money for women affected by breast cancer. If your core business is hunting equipment or a muffler repair shop (and yes I know there are female hunters and mechanics) consider finding an organization that speaks more to what your business is all about. Also, never be afraid to choose a well run program like Relay for Life that raises money for many kinds of cancer research or a local initiative that solidifies your community.

For consumers who want to support companies who do breast cancer awareness month promotions, do a little research and make sure the company you are supporting is living up to the promise of being supportive. Also, don’t judge businesses harshly who may not have a pink initiative in October. Good corporate citizenship does not hinge on this one issue. So many small businesses in our community do wonderful work on behalf of fantastic groups like Big House Foundation, The Jason Dufner Foundation and our local food bank. Keep that in mind and look for ways to support those businesses when they do something to support a local organization.

Well run and heartfelt breast cancer initiatives have changed the face of this insidious disease and business leaders have helped women find support and medical care that was not available in years past. Let’s stay away from pinkwashing and work to support causes that truly help our neighbors.


But We Have Always Done It This Way

I love traditions. I picked my mother’s and my great aunt’s silver pattern and my grandmother’s pearls are probably my most prized possession. That same grandmother used Palmolive to wash dishes and I have a big bottle of the green stuff under my kitchen sink. We have had turkey and dressing for Thanksgiving and Christmas all of my life and I intend to serve that menu for the rest of my days. I like traditional worship, I still wear panty hose and I like antiques. Almost everything I do in my life from how much allowance my 5 year old gets to what brand of toilet paper I buy is grounded in tradition. So why is it that the following 8 words….But we have always done it this way… stop me in my tracks when I hear a business owner or executive say them? Because being grounded in tradition is one thing, staying in a rut is completely another.

The world of marketing and public relations changes on a daily basis. I was at a meeting today of the Lee County Chapter of the Public Relations Council of Alabama. Two young women who are recent graduates of Auburn University presented their Campaign Class project to us. They worked with Fox Sports U and NASCAR to create a campaign to engage the coveted 18-34yo market using primarily social media. Out of several proposals, theirs was chosen to implement. I cannot do the full project justice, but a brief synopsis is that NASCAR is currently followed by mostly 44-67year old men. NASCAR and Fox Sports U see that they have to expand their audience and they have to remain cutting edge on their messaging to engage new and younger fans and viewers. While I was sitting listening to these bright, young women it struck me that tradition has a place in marketing and PR. Tradition in marketing, advertising and PR is your brand. It is the core of who you are and what your values are. It does not change often, if ever. How you relay that message and educate people on your brand is what has to be dynamic and changing with the times. NASCAR stayed true to their culture and who they are, but by working with these students, they added another way in which to reach viewers and potential fans. They did not let “but we have always done it that way” lead the way to complacency and lost revenue.

I worked for a small consulting firm for years beginning in 2002. We did not have voicemail for almost a year after I started. The COO was terrified that clients would see voicemail as a move to be less customer service oriented and excellent customer service was a core value that was measured at this firm. What she did not understand was that people were so used to voicemail by that time that they were hesitant to leave messages with a live human for fear that the nuance of the message may be lost or it may not get to the intended recipient. Because she had always taken hand written messages and dug her heals in so deep, she failed to consider how the person on the other end of the phone felt about voicemail. She wanted to maintain her core value of excellent customer service, but was not considering that the perception of what makes customer service great had changed over time. Business owners have to honor the traditions that work for their enterprises and further brand awareness, but they must also be willing to try new ways to reach clients and potential clients. If Lemonade Social can help you stay true to your traditions, while exploring new ways communicate your core values, please let us know!

Daddy Let Me Drive

Daddy Let Me Drive

When I was 12 years old my family moved from the Atlanta suburbs to the Philadelphia area. My dad’s career was taking him to a position in Wilmington, Delaware. He went from a sales guy with a company car to a product manager providing his own ride. Several months before our move, my maternal grandfather died. He was 83 and had lived a very exciting and fulfilling life. He left behind a dear wife, 4 daughters, 14 grandchildren and a 1971 Ford pickup truck with stepsides, rust and a ton of duct tape…my dad bought it. Being that I was a middle schooler and afflicted with parents, I truly thought I might expire from the embarrassment of my dad driving an old car (a pickup no less). If I had to ride in it, I would duck down so that no one would see me (it did not have seat belts or air bags. It was the 80s and we lived dangerously) and he would definitely have to let me out a block or two from my destination so that no one would see me exiting this temple of teenage horror. I still remember the proclamation that my mom, who was sporting a two tone ’85 Buick LeSabre (which I drove in HS and the muffler fell off in the school parking lot-another story for another day), had to deliver me to any destination where potential friends might be because dad was driving a hunk of junk. I hope most of you have middle school memories that make you feel as charming as this one does me…

So fast forward to 2005, I am 30 years old, single and about to buy my first home. It is a townhouse in Sandy Springs, GA. It was OTP, but inside of the river (barely). I LOVED this house. Procuring it on my own made me feel like a real estate mogul. In 18 year’s time I go from a brat of a middle school kid who won’t be seen in her dad’s vehicle to an adult that needs dad. I want him to look this house over top to bottom. I want him to read over the contract. I want his opinion on whether or not I am paying too much and most of all I want his handyman expertise to help me fix the place up. It needs a coat of paint and a few cosmetic touches that HGTV convinces me we can do inexpensively and in only a few hours. My dad is a great handyman and that is part of the reason that I ask, but mostly, I see this house as an opportunity to spend time with my dad. The painting was pretty easy, but about a year into home ownership I decide that the powder room needs bead board to make it perfectly cottage style charming and again HGTV said we can do it in an afternoon. Mom and Dad come on up for Easter. I have the supplies, dad has the tools and we are going to get this done and painted before hosting a pre-Easter dinner for family. Dad tells me it is going to take 2 full days and I tell him nonsense….because HGTV is a whole channel dedicated to home improvement and they have to know more than a chemical salesman. So…he was right and I was wrong, but we finished the project. He swore he would never do another one with me (he did a few more) and I loved every minute I spent with him, even though he griped through most of the project.

So why am I telling you all of this when this is a small business marketing blog….because Father’s day is approaching and Madison Avenue is treating our dads like buffoons and I don’t like it. I have seen too many commercials recently where mom has it together and dad is portrayed as another child for her to look after. Admittedly, my parents have a very traditional marriage and my husband and I do too. BUT, the men in my life are not Neanderthals or over grown boys who do nothing other than go to work and drink beer (they do those things, but they do a lot more). They are responsible and hard working. They are capable of taking care of my kids, folding a little laundry and I have seen both of them run a vacuum cleaner on occasion. So why are we treating dads so poorly, even as we approach Father’s Day? Clearly the folks who are developing these campaigns are stuck in the Middle School view of their dads. As I mentioned in my Mother’s Day blog, women are key household decision makers, but is this trend complimentary to the person in control of so much disposable income? No! We are being told that the people we chose to spend our lives with and have children with are incompetent. I have no plans to leave Auburn, AL and go to New York and try to single handedly fix this issue, but as I advise businesses on reaching their target markets, this is something that is on my mind. As I approach thought leadership with clients, it will not be done in an effort to belittle or cut down the intelligence of the men in our lives. When I help businesses attempt to reach the “mom market” that I wrote about earlier, it will not be done at the expense of the dads.

Maybe I should not use this forum as an opportunity to step up on my soap box, but as a marketing professional, this is a trend that I do not get. When I chose a song for the Father-Daughter Dance at mine and John’s wedding, I chose Alan Jackson’s “Drive.” The lyrics at the end go like this….

I'm grown up now
3 daughters of my own
I let them drive my old jeep
Across the pasture at our home
Maybe one day they'll reach back in their file
And pull out that old memory
And think of me and smile
And say

It was just an old worn out jeep
Rusty old floor boards
Hot on my feet
A young girl two hands on the wheel
I can't replace the way it made me feel
And he'd say
Turn it left, and steer it right
Straighten up girl now, you're doing just fine
Just a little valley by the river where we'd ride
But I was high on a mountain

When Daddy let me drive

I chose this because my dad is my hero and I want my kids to see their dad the same way-and they do. Us marketing folks have really screwed up how we treat dads and I hope that as Father’s Day approaches we demand better from the places where we do business! Thanks for listening to my semi rant and go out and find dad a great gift or better yet, spend time with him and tell him he can leave his tool belt in the basement.

And…Happy Father’s Day Dad and John.